a kind word

[mpounders]

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I have never been contacted by any former girlfriends! Perhaps that should tell me something? But my wife was horrified to be called by two of her former boyfriends. She felt it was very creepy that they had tracked her down after all these years, knew that she was married (30 years and counting to me), and still thought they might have a chance. One of them is married also! She was shocked that someone would go to such lengths and almost felt like they were stalkers. So you might consider the lady's possible viewpoint! I emailed a girl I knew in high school, but I made sure to mention my happy marriage and kids and stuff, so that she would have no misunderstanding about why I was emailing her!

[rickm]

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never occurred to me that someone would think I was stalking them. and like I said she lives in another continent. But I suppose she might be suspicious. That might speak of her reluctance but whatever its over now. If I repeatedly tried to make contact with her then I would see a problem, I sent her a email and she responded< I answered and then she replied again and that was about it. I don't make it a habit of going where I aint wanted so unless she looks me up Im done with it. My only point was that she could have been nicer, but in thinking about it, women do have to be cautious today.

[Lazy Carver]

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I often think of that Rick, they are called 'crossroads' I always wonder about what would be the outcome should i have been married with that individual. Would we still be together now? I know that i shouldn't limit myself on such things, but that's another discussion. As for return kindness, it's a hit or miss thing. Especially with your past. To some people, kindness, it's the world, and to others it's just another day of patronization. I'm still on that road, so i can't really compliment on kindness throughout the years. What i can compliment on, are experiences of the past. Though not many, i have been through some tough times when just a mere pat on the back is a barn burner of uplifting for feeling fulfilled from within... I have had a few friends from my past give me the second rate citizen bit, and then again i have had some not so cool friends open up to me and invite me into their own lives as if we were family..... I still keep intouch with an ex girlfriend, who is married with children, and works in D.C.. I facebooked her, and it's as if we never left eachother, even though we shared so much together in the past.... An old flame from 25 years ago, mind you.... It's funny how time flies.... It is true... So, good with bad, you just keep going, and stick with the journey, and do the best we can, start to finish... Like Robert Duvall's character said in the movie Broken Trail, 'We are all travelers in this world, from the sweet grass to the packin' house, Birth till death, we travel between the eternities.......' I hope this helped Rick.

[rickm]

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lazy if yr not a writer you should be. I journeyed with you in that post as you described lifes experiences. It was uplifting. I don't know what I expected. Maybe some part of me wished she owood and awed and remarked how she felt our time was special. The pragmatist in me said, it aint happening.
As far as thank you is concerned I look at my register and find I have been thanked a lot on this forum and I wonder for what? Im not a great carver and a fountain of knowledge. I am not a guru or the Buddha on the hill so I don't think what I say matters a great deal. I am not afraid to speak what is on my mind so maybe I touch a chord with people. I am surprised I get thanked as much as I do and sometimes I think for what? I didn't say anything special. Maybe its because I make the effort. Maybe that alone.
I teach college as a adjunct and I get a lot of thank you's not from students but from students moms. Thanks for taking a interest in my son, thanks for helping him here and there and it does surprise me. Isnt that what teachers are supposed to do? Find a way for young people to learn and develop interest in life? If you look at my fb page I have a lot of young girls and young men who are my friends, why ? because Im a cute old man? No because I took a interest in their life, career and trouble. Sometimes I think that means a lot a friendly handshake a interest, a smile a thank you. In this jaded, violent cold world people need and want genuine.
This forum is unique, everyone gets along and are friendly and do what they can. I belong to other forums, the bmw forum the flamenco forum, the classical guitar forum and a gaming forum, and it seems like every week someone is started a flame war.
Maybe because we are older here, maybe we are gentler, maybe we have been thru enough strife in our lives.
Anyway, I thank everyone who bothered to read my thougts and comments and really lazy carver if you don't write start. You have a great message.

[chipmunk]

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to be nice to someone. is to show whats in ur heart. or think of yourself.
for 1 not to reply or give a nasty answer . is what they think of thereselfs.
or angery of themselves for the way there lives turned out.
ive had that happen not to long ago, and then i said im not the reason ur life sucks maybe if u been nicer ur life may not have turned out so bad for u! and have u ever heard what u give its what u get. she thought for a couple seconds and said im so sorry. others over heard it and come up and said she was a bit-h and if u tryed to be nice to me i would have thanked u and give u a kiss on the cheek for being so nice.
sometimes u have to remind people of how they are treating u . and sometimes people just are azz holes and they never change.
maybe it was a good thing that u'all split ways.
it doesnt take from ur life to give a good word they might not appreciate it but sometimes others hear it and they do..i always try to be nice till the time comes not too. thats why i tell others as nice as i can be . i can also be as bad as bad can get. would u rather see the nice side or would u rather see the bad side ur chose
dont let it get u down. ol' friend .there 1 born every day and twice on sunday,lol

[Arthur C.]

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This has turned out to be a very interesting thread; philosophical, if you will. Some real insights; not new, perhaps, but nonetheless ones that it behooves us to be mindful of as we move through life.

Thank you all.

Arthur