Upcycling table and chairs to match dark oak effect sideboard

[newbydecorater1987]

Hello all,
I'm new here and also new to up cycling and wood working.
I've found this table and chairs in a dumpster 5 years ago on my street. Trying to convince hubby its time to get a new one. But for some reason I just can't let this one go. He seems attached to it too.

I've tried to stain it to match a dark oak effect on a sideboard. I used a walnut stain. But it's come out rather dark and glossy.

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Now I'm just wondering if anyone has any tips on how I can start again and get it to look more rustic, unfinished and like the sideboard? I've now purchased:
- dark oak effect stain (I think maybe the walnut was too dark?)
- pure tung oil
- sandpaper
I already have
- a sander

Shall I just throw in the towel and buy a new one? Or is there hope to turn my table into a rustic masterpiece? (I realize that this is a skilled profession and I'm not very skilled in this area but will do my best).

Got a baby on the way so trying my best to save and not necessarily wanting to buy a new set right now if I can get the look I want with this table...but if that is unrealistic I'll cut my losses.

I'd love to hear any advice on this specific table and getting started.

[pallin]

This website is mostly about woodcarving, including the finishing techniques for carvings. Perhaps you should submit your question on a site like this: lumberjocks

[newbydecorater1987]

Ah ok thank you. The reason I asked here was because I stumbled here by chance on a similar post. I'll check there then. Thanks for the sign-posting.